THE CHRISTIAN HUSBAND

 

I.  FIRST THINGS FIRST!!!

GOD IS NOT ONLY THE MATCHMAKER WHO BRINGS THE MAN AND WOMAN TOGETHER, BUT HE IS ALSO THE SOVEREIGN POWER THAT KEEPS THEM TOGETHER.  FOR IN THE BOOK OF COLOSSIANS CHAPTER 1:16-17, PAUL DECLARES: 

"For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for himAnd he is before all things, and by him all things consist."

 

II.  THE CHRISTIAN HUSBAND

    A.    ESTABLISHING HEADSHIP

Ephesians 2:23-24

    For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Let's set the record straight however:

    What Headship Is Not ~

        1.)  Headship is not a license to command, control or coerce.                                                              

        2.)  Headship is not just satisfying sexual feelings.

    What Headship Is ~

   

     B.    HUSBANDS MUST LOVE THEIR WIVES!

Ephesians 2:25

    Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

A HUSBAND'S LOVE MUST BE SO GREAT FOR HIS WIFE THAT HE WOULD LITERALLY DIE FOR HER.

MARITAL LOVE IS GIVING ONE'S SELF WITHOUT CONCERN FOR RECEIVING. (AGAPE LOVE OR THE GOD'S KIND OF LOVE)

I Corinthians 13   The Love Chapter simply says - -

    Love is the giving of one's self to the point that I'll do what's best for you even if it is inconvenient for me to do.

Oh, here's another good scripture to use as an example.

Romans 5:8

    But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

 

     C.    HUSBANDS MUST LOVE THEIR WIVES EVEN IN THEIR IMPERFECT STATE!

REMEMBER THIS - - EVERY PRECIOUS STONE COMES FROM THE ROUGH WITH IMPERFECTIONS; HOWEVER IT TAKES THE CHISEL OF THE MASTER JEWELER TO CHIP AWAY THE FLAWS AND FORM THE FLAWLESS GEM.

Ephesians 2:26

    That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

 

     D.    HUSBANDS ARE RESPONSIBLE BEFORE GOD FOR THEIR WIVES

Ephesians 2:27

    That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

Please keep in mind that this is a process.  What does this equate to?  A FULL-TIME LIFE-TIME JOB!!!

   

     E.    HUSBANDS MUST LOVE THEIR WIVES AS THEY DO THEIR VERY OWN BODIES

Ephesians 2:28-29

    So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

TO NOURISH HER = TO FEED AND PROVIDE FOR HER

TO CHERISH = TO TAKE CARE, HONOR AND RESPECT HER

HOW??? ------- THE SAME WAY YOU TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

 

     E.    HUSBANDS - LOVE HER AS THE WEAKER VESSEL

1 Peter 3:7

    Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Husbands Have Got To Learn To ---

1.    To use wisdom in speech - This does not mean to use the silent treatment nor does it mean to call them derogatory names, but speak with wisdom.  REMEMBER   Proverbs 18:21 ---- Death and Life are in the power of your tongue.

2.   To feed her emotions and she will respond to your ego!!!

FINALLY:

1 Peter 3:8-9

    Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:  Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

REMEMBER, YOUR FIRST COMMITMENT IS TO GOD - THEN AND ONLY THEN CAN YOU LOVE HER GOD'S WAY!

                                                                                                                                                  Pastor B. Peebles

 

But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deluding your own selves.  (James 1:22)

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